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August 19, 2011

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s i’ve been planning for our homeschool year, i have found myself falling into a very common trap:

comparison

as i’ve been racking my brain trying to come up with a daily “schedule” for our school year, i have been filled with much frustration, and i just couldn’t figure out why it was so hard for me to come up with something so simple.

by yesterday afternoon i was ready to throw in the towel and just “forget it!”  i prayed and asked God to give me wisdom and show me how to plan our days in a way that would best serve Him and my family.

i decided to grab a cup of coffee and slip outside to our picnic table for a bit of quiet planning, and that’s when i figured out my problem.

the reason i wasn’t able to come up with the right schedule for our school days was simple:  i was trying to pattern my days after other people’s schedules rather than looking at my own family and what works best for us.

there’s nothing wrong with learning  what works for other families, however, it’s important to remember that what works for one family may not work for yours.

a friend recently shared her daily school schedule with me, and i was able to glean some really helpful ideas from her.  However, every family is different and is made up of different family dynamics and it’s not wise to assume that we can squeeze our family into some else’s mold.  not only will we frustrate ourselves, but we will frustrate our kids as well.

once i realized what i was doing, i was able to look at my own family, see what’s already working well for us, and went on from there.

in just a short time, i was able to come up with a plan that seems as though it may work for us.  notice that i said “may work for us”.  no matter how “right” our plan may look, in reality, we won’t know if it works until we put it into practice.

i usually find that a couple of weeks into the school year, i have to tweak some things here and there to make it work.  and there have been times when i’ve had to eliminate some things completely because it just didn’t serve us well.

every school year i am reminded of some very wise counsel that i heard at a home school convention years back…..the speaker said that families are like ice cream and that every family has it’s own flavor,  and we shouldn’t even try to be someone else’s flavor.  🙂

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3 Comments leave one →
  1. August 19, 2011 1:27 pm

    Patty–

    I think we are living parallel lives right now. Let’s get together and encourage each other one of these days. In fact, most days I could copy your posts and put them on my blog and it would be accurate. Really. I am praying for you, girl! Love how clearly you see the Lord at work even amidst trials. You have spurred me on many times in recent days! Thanks.

    Angie

    • August 19, 2011 2:51 pm

      thank you for you sweet comment, angie. i am so thankful that God is using this blog and my season of life to spur you on….i’d love to get together sometime!

  2. August 20, 2011 4:17 pm

    Thank you for visiting my blog the other day. Oh, the comparison trap – it shows up everywhere, doesn’t it? Hope the start of your school year goes well.

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